Some days you will hear people questioning your choices. Why do you eat so much? Why are you wearing those skirts? Why do you choose her? Why aren’t you married yet? Realize that you don’t owe anyone any explanations–you don’t have to answer them. Be brave enough to keep some things to yourself.
Along with the word ‘why’, you will also hear the word ‘should’ve’. You should’ve gone to this school. You should’ve bought the other dress. You should’ve found someone by now. You should’ve forgotten her. When these days come, put your hand on your chest. Remember that the only ‘should’ve’ that is allowed to ever cross your mind is right there: you should’ve followed your heart. Whatever you are feeling is valid–and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Be selfish enough to listen to your heart.
Some days you will be lucky enough to encounter the miracles of life: through the beautiful sound of children laughing on Sunday afternoon in Central Park, through the breathtaking sunsets in Santorini, through earth-shattering first kiss, and through a love worthy of fairy tale. Throughout those moments, stop for a while and look around. Put your phone and camera away. Be selfish enough to indulge in those miracles—and keep them to yourself. Some things are too beautiful to be shared to anyone but you. So please, carve them in your heart; so that whenever you want, with or without your phone and camera, you know where to find your treasure.
There will be days when waking up in the morning is dreadful because your heart is heavy. It might be anchored down to things like sickness, awful job, or heartbreaks. But you can do it. You don’t need to tackle the giant problem to be happy. Instead, remind yourself to take one step at a time, one day at a time. Keep going. You will be fine.
As some days will be dreadful, some days will be blissful. One day you might wake up enthusiastically because that will be the day you give out your first speech as one of the most successful people in the world. Another day you might wake up to the love of your life without her makeup on. There will be wrinkles on her face, but God, she will be a reminder of the best decision you have ever made in your entire life. The next thing you know, you will realize that your smile isn’t forced. You are happy. Live for those days.
Some days you will learn that to forgive is one of the most selfish–yet liberating thing to do. It will be one of the most important skills that you have to learn continuously for the rest of your life. You will learn how to forgive your parents for some bad calls that they made on the basis of their never-ending love. You will learn how to forgive the love of your life for the words thrown to you in the midst of heartaches. You will learn how to forgive yourself for your shortcomings every now and then. Forgive. Set yourself free.
For everyday, lit the fire in your soul and let it shine through your eyes. Let it shine so bright that they think they are looking at the sun.
For some days, be selfish. Remember to live for yourself. Choose for yourself. Hold on to your heart.
You don’t owe anyone anything, but you owe yourself a whole life. You don’t need someone’s approval to do anything, but you need your heart’s approval not to regret anything 10 years from today.
So please. Remember these days. Remember some days. Remember you.