The ride is almost over.
While 2015 has been a beautiful journey, 2016 opens doors to new hope and possibilities. It means another 365 days of exploring and exciting.
Looking back, 2015 was a proof that our days could jump from heaven to hell, and hell to heaven — in the blink of an eye. Though it has been odd and beautiful at the same time, I have decided to leave several things behind. I realised that to really embrace the days ahead, I should learn how to let go.
So here are things that I (maybe you, too) should let go of in 2016:
To let go of the need to be perfect
In my daily life, I demand a certain standard of things. While I know I can’t control other people, I only hold the demand onto myself–for example: perfect look, perfect clothes, perfect writing, perfect pictures, perfect food, perfect music, and perfect job; even when no one is looking.
My need to be perfect is severe; and I realised that it is eating me inside. It is why my Dad always reminds me that I should learn how to be okay with my imperfection–because first, perfection doesn’t exist; and second, perfection is boring.
To let go of the need for validation
Honestly, I rarely have issues with validation. Perhaps it’s because I am a very private, individualistic person–but I still think this is worth mentioning. Every once in a while, I still look for validation for the sake of personal pride. This is especially true that I need validation from the people I love.
Of course my need for validation is not severe; but sometimes, I think it would be really great if the only validation I need were from myself. Self-centered? Yes, a little. Liberating? Yes, totally.
To let go of the need to be right
I am universally known stubborn, hardheaded, or opinionated–you name it; and I won’t deny. It doesn’t mean that I think other people are wrong, but mostly because I think I am right.
During these years, my need to be right has been significantly decreasing. It doesn’t necessarily mean that I agree with people, but there are certain objections that I hold back. And yet, I still need to learn how to let go of my haughty mindset; or better yet, how to communicate my opinions without pushing away others’.
To let go of anger
2015 brought a lot of things on my plate–and I guess one of them is anger. Disclaimer: I am not an angry or bitter person. However, there is anger that still resurfaces every now and then.
To let go of anger should also mean that to let go of the wrong in people–and also, to let go of the wrong people. It is to make peace with my past, and to accept the apology I never got.
To let go of worry
Worry is the thorn in my flesh. I once met someone who can see worries right through me in the first hello. It is chronic; but on the other side, worry teaches me to surrender my steps into God’s loving hand. And if anything, 2015 taught me to live based on two simple sentences: “One day at a time; one problem at a time.” –and therefore, to let go of worry.
To let go of my opinion of everyone’s life
Social medias are killers for a happy life. They put spotlights on everyone’s most highlighted moments; while emphasising on what we don’t have.
I remember the moment my friend was having a fight with her boyfriend (and was ranting to me with teary eyes)–while posting their happy picture on Instagram, with the caption: ‘I’m so glad I have you in my life (heart)’. So it is important to remind ourselves that those we envy and those we compare ourselves to, have behind-the-scenes that aren’t as pretty.