I believe that everyone has that someone who got away while everything seemed perfect — except for one thing: timing.
It might be the guy we dated a while ago before he decided to move overseas. It might be our first love — the first girl that ever touched our soul, only to find that both of us hadn’t figured out a lot of things about life, let alone about love just yet. It might be that one very attractive person that could’ve been the love of our life — if only they were single at the time.
For a lot of people, timing can be (or most of the time, is) a bitch; that it is the one thing that often gets in the way of wonderful things. But I think this is time for us to face the truth: Timing is not a bitch; and here’s why.
When we meet someone at the ‘wrong time’, he or she might actually be the wrong person.
In a world that puts so much emphasis on true love and romance, it is easy to believe that the love we felt for one person is the love; that it is so magical and perfect — so, it is supposed to work; and that if it doesn’t work, we feel the need to find someone (or something) to blame— and timing is the first option.
Falling in love is hard; but letting go of love is even harder.
It is much easier to blame timing. While I’m not exactly sure why, my best guess is simply because timing couldn’t talk back, and we are always in desperate need for a reason behind every bad thing that happened.
But it doesn’t really make things easier, does it? In fact, it makes letting go of love even much harder. To believe that timing has something to do with our failed relationships leads us from one what if to another what if — and we are in a constant swirl of belief that maybe someday, the timing will be perfect.
But let’s be honest: there will never be the ‘right’ time. Something always gets in the way every now and then. That is why it all comes down to one thing — choice; not timing. At the end of the day, it is someone’s choice to decide whether or not the relationship is not worth pursuing.
Not timing, not fate; it is someone who finally decides that the relationship is not worth pursuing.
You see, so it wasn’t the right person because the right person would choose to share their lives under any circumstances, to experience it as friends and enjoy it as lovers.
If eventually we have to face the ‘wrong timing’, we may start asking this one question:
Is the timing wrong; or is it simply because the wrong persons are not ready to commit themselves to each other?
‘Being ready’ is a choice. It is our choice to be ready when we fit them into our complicated schedule. It is our choice to be ready when we push them toward their dreams and share the adventures that tag along. It is their choice to be ready when they constantly choose you over the other people— be it another girl or guy, friends, or even family. It is their choice to let you stay or let you go. It is their choice to see you as a rare gem or as a mere pebble.
So next time we deem timing as the reason for our failed relationship (or soon-to-be relationship), it could very well mean that neither of us is right for each other.
This is the time for reality check: Timing is not the bitch. We just met the wrong person. When someone is right for us, we’ll choose him or her regardless of time — because the timing is always right.